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  • Ruok?

    after suffering from mental illness last year, this topic is really close to my heart.

    One little question can make a big difference to people who are struggling with life.

    R U OK? Day is on Thursday 13th September – a national day of action and a reminder to regularly check in with family, friends and workmates. I encourage you to take time out either on the day or sometime during the week to call someone, have coffee with them and to just listen, to see that they are OK.

    R U OK? is a national suicide prevention charity, focused on inspiring people to take the time to ask "are you ok?".

    By asking this question, and listening without judgment, we can help people who are struggling with life to feel connected long before they even think about suicide. It all comes down to regular, face-to-face, meaningful conversations about life. And asking “are you ok?” is a great place to start.

    You don’t need to be an expert to start a conversation with a workmate. You just need to listen without judgment.

    How do you start a conversation?
    · To help someone open up, find a time and place that works for you both
    · Make sure you’re in a good headspace, so you’re not distracted or stressed
    · Ask them “are you ok?” or “how you going?”
    · If a mate or loved one brushes off your concerns, don’t be afraid to dig a little deeper

    What happens if they’re not ok?
    · Take what they say seriously and don't interrupt or rush the conversation.
    · Don’t judge their experiences or reactions but acknowledge that things seem tough for them.
    · Encourage them to explain: ‘How are you feeling about that?’ or ‘How long have you felt that way?’

    Don’t try and ‘fix’ their problem but instead help them to brainstorm ideas to better manage the situation:
    · ‘What have you done in the past that’s been helpful?’
    · ‘How would you like me to support you?’
    · ‘What’s something you can do for yourself right now? Something that’s enjoyable or relaxing?’

    Stay in touch and be there for them. Genuine care and concern can make a real difference.

    Visit for more tips on how to start a conversation. If you really want to make a difference, R U OK need your help to champion the message in your workplace, school and community. You don't have to do it alone because they have some amazing resources you can use.
    Last edited by illawarra_steelers; 13th September 2018, 09:06 AM. Reason: updated date 2018
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  • #2
    Good post steelers!

    In a situation where someone appears to be complaining it can be a challenge to understand what is truly going on with that person. It might seem like they just need to harden up.

    I think that when someone is telling you how they feel, the important thing is to understand that, no matter how much their rationalisation might not make sense or seem unrealistic, for that person those feelings are real.

    As a mate, you are not there to try and judge if those rationalisations make sense, but to be em-pathetically supportive. Accepting and understanding a persons emotional state can help you understand their behaviour, and that is the beginning of the journey to moving on.

    Forget about the past, and the reasons why. It's about what we can do now to move ahead.
    John - JWP


    • #3
      I have a friend who is currently going through a rough patch
      I an trying to be a good friend, it is mainly about listening, talking about the issues.
      I believe I am helping


      • #4
        Originally posted by Pop Bumper Pete View Post
        I have a friend who is currently going through a rough patch
        I an trying to be a good friend, it is mainly about listening, talking about the issues.
        I believe I am helping
        Listening is really the key Pete, so yes you would be helping and sometimes more than you know.

        Sometimes that all we need, just to be able to down load a little and see that other people are sometimes suffering the same. Makes it not so hopeless if we don't feel alone or somehow strange because we feel a certain way.
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        • #5
          even if just one person on this forum reaches out to make a difference today.

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          • #6
            yearly bump.

            today is R U OK day.

            reach out and make a difference to somebodies life.
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            • #7
              A year already clearly I’m not ok the years are going way to fast.

              Hopefully everyone’s ok it really is a good initiative

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              • #8
                Early signs are key to get the right help, too many end up in a casket.


                • #9
                  Yep, one of the best initiatives ever. There is no shame in asking for help, we all need a leg-up at some point in our lives.
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                  Remember--The early bird catches the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese!


                  • #10
                    until you have had depression, you cannot understand what it is like
                    I used to think I understood, but I knew nothing

                    I have had so many bad episodes over the last 6 months, and I cannot see any end
                    but while depressed, I dont feel suicidal


                    • #11
                      Whilst I like the idea of RUOk day, I think it needs be be more like RUOk year every year. There also needs to be a little more focus on what to do when someone says "no, I'm not ok".

                      Here's a chart that's a useful start:

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                      • #12
                        yearly bump guys. tomorrow is ruok day

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                        • #13
                          My work shirt for the day [emoji3526]

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                          • #14
                            Worth a read

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                            • #15
                              I went and took the first step to bettering my mental health last week. Spoke to a counsellor and then visited a GP to get a full checkup and a bloodtest. Next week, I will be going back to the doc to start a mental health plan. I have been struggling for years, particularly with drinking. For the last 3 weeks I have completely cut out weeknight drinking, going from anywhere between 3-6 beers every night to nothing between Sunday-Thursday. It's been tough, but it's making a difference and is giving me a goal to work towards. It also means that on Friday and Saturday night, relaxing with a few beers has a bit more of a special meaning. I hit a point this year where I was so burnt out from work and kids that my pinball and arcade hobbies didn't even make me happy anymore. I knew something was wrong when the only thing that kept me sane was beer.

                              Take it from me, do not leave it too late. If you're struggling, seek help. I've got a long way to go, but seeking help was the first step and it took me far too long to do that.


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